In A Funk? Time For A Powerful Attitude Adjustment!

Lady is in A Funk

Confessions Of A Frustrated Blogger

I’m going to admit something shocking and even bare my soul here. Happy people are not happy all of the time.

Last night, I was in a funk. Indeed, it was a sad, tired, cranky, full-on meltdown!

It wasn’t pretty. And it definitely wasn’t fun.

So, let me start at the beginning.

The Evil Empire That Set Off My Funk

It was a three-day weekend. And everyone was celebrating.

But, not me.

I was at my computer, glued to the screen for the entire three days. Doing what I do. Which is blogging, marketing, researching, networking, clawing for backlinks, and Pinterest.

But, since I am a newborn, baby blogger just shy of three months, I needed extra income.

Enter Etsy.

As it happens, I love Canva and have lost count of the hours spent creating almost 30 designs. For the last three days, I have listed, printed, redesigned, relisted, optimized, forgot to optimize, redid files for optimization, and then relisted them again.

You get the picture.

While adding my 20th listing, Etsy suddenly shut down my account. I couldn’t get back in. Next, I tried calling.

Alas, Etsy has no phone number.

despondent meltdown coming on

Who has been where this woman is? Is she watching her work disappear in front of her eyes? Do you know this sinking feeling?

The Evil Empire Had Me In It’s Slimy Grasp

So, I tried getting help from Etsy support. However, you must have an active account to send a message. When I tried, my helpful computer screen informed me my account had been closed.

Closed?

I had just spent three entire days working on these listings – three days that could never be regained!

Notably, I hadn’t completed any listings or even finished setting up my shop yet! How could I have broken a rule and gotten banned already?

Upon attempting to contact Etsy support via my personal account, the help page would not send my SOS message. As I pressed the send button 35 times, the words just sat there, unsent.

As if they were mocking my puny attempts to rescue the lost account.

At least 36 total hours of work and my hope for a new income stream seemed to vanish in a thick haze of malicious smoke.

Gone! No listings! Nothing. “This account has been closed.”

I stared at the mocking little screen for what seemed like hours, but that did not intimidate it into allowing me back into the site.

Beginnings of A Spiraling Meltdown

To add additional misery to my plight, I had already lost a check from an insurance company earlier in the day. Then, my youngest child accompanied me to Target where she kindly assisted me in spending nearly $300 just for food and “necessities.”

Furthermore, the previous night had been a sleepless one, as I was keyed up about my exciting new business venture. As a result, my day with Etsy began at 4 AM.

Insufficient sleep contributes to meltdowns

Can you identify with this woman? Did you know insufficient sleep contributes to meltdowns?

The Great Big Funk

On the whole, I was now officially in a funk.

Decidedly feeling sorry for myself, I whined out loud, both to myself and my faithful furball, Toby.

Pathetic, right?

Then, I thought about how hard I had worked these past months, taking very little time to exercise or eat right. Really, all I wanted was to work on my blog and succeed in going full-time with it.

This led to toiling and grinding for what amounted to 15-hour days, blogging, pinning, and attempting to learn every last, overwhelming, little detail there is to know about blogging.

So, I looked at Google Analytics.

That was my next mistake.

Indeed, GA told me that absolutely no one reads my blog. The site seemed to smirk at the fact that I might actually have any readers.

At that point, I began doubting myself. Thus, my site probably looks amateurish with its Canva-designed, happy people. My posts are boring and not interesting. I can’t get my email to work right and I don’t know how to do Pinterest that well.

Did I mention I was in a funk?

Funks start small. Next thing you know, you’re spiraling downward. Down, down, down.

Can anyone out there relate?

To Survive A Funk, Find A Dog

Hence, I needed an attitude adjustment, and I knew it! A defeatist attitude isn’t attractive, especially not in a 50-something-year-old woman. We are supposed to be wise and have all the answers.

I mean, I write a blog about joy and self-improvement!

Duh!

But, we are all human and no one is capable and happy 100% of the time. Not even old people or authors!

So, I plunked myself down on the floor and was immediately surrounded by three worried dogs. Each furball circled around, giving comfort to my sad self in that way only dogs can do when they sense dejection in their humans.

I looked into their sad eyes and let myself feel the awful feelings. The frustration and worry that success may not happen washed over me in droves. And I let myself feel every bit of it.

Which helped get it out of my system.

Basset Hound Puppy helps with a despondent mood

How can this little guy not help someone out of a meltdown?

Time To Leave The Meltdown Behind

A few minutes later, to my surprise, I found myself smiling and enjoying the interaction with these silly dogs. Then a few other realizations started in. I was burning myself right out of this new, overwhelming adventure that I loved.

Working in a demanding full-time job, eight hours a day, using every break and lunch hour to keep up with social media networking, was quite strenuous. At 5 PM, my personal computer was immediately powered up, and hard at work almost every day.

Furthermore, guess how the majority of my weekends were spent?

I was doing too much, too fast, in too little time, and my life had spun drastically out of balance.

In a funk pin

A Plan To Escape The Funk

Consequently, it was time to reprioritize.

Too many high expectations were leading me straight to failure. So, I looked my genius dogs in their eyes and saw they all agreed.

Next, I examined my blog, its concept, the audience I wanted to reach, and how I was going about everything. If only a few readers look at my blog now, does it even have a future?

Should I change everything? Or keep it as it is and give it some more time?

It was necessary to admit there were quite a few things that needed to change.

First of all, I needed to travel back to the beginning and remember why I became a blogger.

It wasn’t about money.

Instead, it was my love of writing. I wanted to share what I know to help improve the lives of others through what I love to do.

In reality, this is where my focus had drifted away.

Next, I took a few minutes to visualize the eventual outcome I wanted. This was with the understanding that it was not going to happen tomorrow (as my non-patient ego had originally predicted).

Instead, I have to earn it.

And when I do, it will be one of the most rewarding accomplishments in my last 20 years!

A New Beginning To Cure A Bad Funk

Today, I am in the process of forming a new plan.

For the time being, instead of focusing on future income, blogging will remain a much-loved hobby. I will put off my e-books and other future monetary projects to focus on learning more about all that I have yet to know.

Equally, I want to know more about where to find my audience and how I can serve you better.

And I’m going to take time for myself while I’m learning.

For example, at lunchtime (I work from home), I threw a stew into the crock pot, and it made for a delicious dinner. In a few minutes, when I finish this blog, I’m going to leash up my three wonderful dogs and take them for a stroll.

In particular, I’m going to finally read that book that’s been lying next to my bed. Ultimately, I don’t know exactly how I’ll balance out the time for everything, but going without sleep is not the answer!

If you will recall, I did say my plan for accomplishing everything isn’t yet complete.

Routine relaxation prevents meltdowns

Reading is a great way to relax and destroy a despondent mood, but I won’t be attempting this position. Instead, I will choose a lovely, scented bathtub with rose petals.

A New Day Dawns

Since I put myself to bed at a reasonable hour and changed my priorities, today is going much better.

Unsurprisingly, taking a hard look at myself and my blogging experience and devising a new plan instilled a fresh, new attitude!

Actually, it feels pretty, darn good.

And not only that, do I dare mention when I logged into Etsy this evening, my account and listings were back, fully intact?

All leading to the fact that today and every day is a new day!

With new opportunities and beginnings!

One thing is for sure. I am not turning back, nor will I give up.

Believing in possibilities is a requirement if one wants success in doing what one loves.

This is no time to fall apart, as the race is just getting started!

Also, it’s important to remember past successes were due to relentless, hard work. Brainpower is only part of meeting a goal!

Persistence wins every battle!

I don’t get in a funk very often. Life has taught me that being in a poor mood doesn’t get me where I need to go. And it never lasts forever.

So, when a person gets in a funk, they can milk it for a little while, but stewing in it for too long is self-neglect!

While doing some internet research, I came across some good advice. Allow me to toss in what I know just for good measure!

The story of the big bad funk

What To Do When You’re In A Dejected Mood

Plainly speaking, the fix is a self-installation of an attitude adjustment! This is how it’s done.

  1. When in a poor mood, allow yourself to feel the full weight of the emotional skydive for a short while. Then realize when it’s time to pull yourself out of the hole! If you want success, you have to work for it.
  2. Re-examine your life and priorities. Including your attitude and why you are triggered.
  3. Take a hard look at what you are doing. What is working? What is not working?
  4. Go back to the beginning. What should you do differently? What can you learn from it?
  5. Is your end goal still worth fighting for? If, so, figure out How To Get Motivated.
  6. Come up with a new plan with fresh energy.
  7. Ask the experts for advice and people around you for help when needed. Remember, it is wise to learn from experience.
  8. Do the research and learn everything you can about what you are trying to do. Simple changes can usually make all the difference.
  9. Actually, picture the reward. Visualize obtaining your goal.
  10. Slow down if you are going too fast. To achieve better life balance, rest and peace of mind are necessary to enable the use of sound judgment and decision-making abilities.
  11. Finally, be sure to use positive affirmations and encourage yourself often.

Your Attitude Determines Your Altitude (How far you go in life)

Wrap It Up

Always work through challenging situations instead of simply giving up. What you go through and how you handle everything determines what you become.

In particular, never forget to believe in yourself and fight through thoughts of giving up. Persistence and determination are what win every single battle!

Plus, arming yourself with adequate knowledge and following the right plan are requirements, as well.

Flexibility, as in remaining open to change and learning how to adapt when change happens, is also important. Yet, remain true to yourself in all that you do.

And know that working well with others always helps in reaching your goals in life!

“Research unequivocally confirms that your attitude is one of the most important … if not THE most important … factor in your success”.

In addition, enjoy this brief video, which offers additional information on escaping a funk, as a bonus just for you.

As it happens, I’m also interested in learning what challenges you have successfully faced and how you handled them. Feel free to tell me about it in the comments section.

Or, if you need advice on how to handle being in a funk, I’m always available via email.

Thanks for stopping by!

The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts. –Marcus Aurelius

References

lifehack.org

linkedin.com

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33 Comments

  1. I love this post ! I felt like I was right there with you on the ups and downs of your weekend! I also feel like I can totally relate. I’m new to this whole blogging thing as well, ideally I’d like to make some money, but I need to enjoy it first. I look forward to future posts!

  2. I love your way of writing, yes blogging is harder than they make you believe when you are just getting started.I remember in my early blogging days I`d find myself still sitting at my computer at sunrise REALLY.
    But things get easier as you continue only that we need to sometimes stop and enjoy life`s little pleasures like playing with your dog or any pet.
    I think what makes blogging so hard is that you learn and do as you go on and there is mostly no one to ask (im old fashioned and prefer to get my answers face to face).
    what frustrates me the most about blogging is that as soon as you learn something,there`s the next and next and next to learn it seems the learning never stop, then by the time you master a task, there is a newer,better version of it.
    Thanks so much for sharing.

    1. I hear you, Roseline, and I’m with you. This is the hardest thing I’ve done in a while, but I love it too much to stop. I hope you do too. Eventually, we will both be able to keep our heads above water just enough to stay afloat!

  3. This is a very timely post. I have been in a funk for the past week. Everytime I feel like I’m making traction, google or pinterest have an update…lol! Thank you for the tips! I needed to readjust my attitude!

  4. Thank you for sharing this experience because it’s so relatable!! I like what you said about coming up with a new plan with fresh energy as a way to get out of a funk! That’s when I do my best work! It’s when I have renewed energy and spirit! Sometimes a change of scenery helps with that too 🙂

  5. I got a good laugh out of this! I’ve been so overwhelmed at times trying to get my blog up and running. Thanks for injecting a little humor inot a frustrating situation!

  6. Girl, that was so relatable. And you’re hilarious! I just noticed you and I started blogging around the same time.
    So here’s a sound tip from a fellow newbie blogger sister – Don’t ever stop blogging.
    Seriously, if someone as talented as you would, then how on earth would I stay motivated to keep going?
    Amazing tips at the end, thank you so much for them!
    Looking forward to reading more. 🙂

  7. Oh man, do I resonate with putting in a ton of effort only to see it seemingly go up in smoke! Glad you got it back though. Technology can be so unreliable some days…

    1. So true! You can be typing away and feeling so good about what you’re putting out and then poof! It can be gone in an instant! This time, it came back and I was so thankful!

  8. An excellent post, love your honest writing style. I know those post-midnight meltdowns well! All great points but number 10 is soooo true, if you don’t look after yourself it’s hard to produce your best work, so time spent on rest is not time wasted at all. Thanks for sharing.

    1. Thank you, Eliska! This is something new I’ve tried and I think I’ll keep it around. Writing my own experiences and poking a little fun at myself while doing it was actually fun!

  9. I promise, you’re not alone here. We ALL feel like this as writers. It’s hard to get established and sometimes even once we are there is a huge lull that makes it feel as if it’s not worth it. I’m so glad you were able to adjust your sails and find your way back on track. You got this!!

  10. I can relate to this so much! I am generally a pretty positive and joyful person, but when I go down, I fall hard! lol Thank you for this timely advice.

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